Coming Out

Published 2021-08-14 on Cara Salter's Blog - Permalink

Howdy y’all, this is going to take a turn towards the very personal, which is something that as you can imagine I’m not very comfortable with. However, this is something that I need to get down. This is being posted simultaneously on my site https://devosmium.xyz, my Facebook1, and my Instagram1. Same content, same message. With that out of the way, let’s get into the meat of this post.

First things first, the “easy” bit. I don’t do well with subtlety, so I’m just going to go ahead and say it. I’m gay. I call this the “easy” bit because compared to the second thing, it’s the more widely accepted one.

Second things second, and this is something that I do not take lightly, I am trans. I am a trans woman. My name is Cara, my pronouns are she/her. Over the past seven or eight years I’ve gradually been able to come to the realization that I am not a cisgender man. I’ve been thinking and reflecting on my identity during that time, and I’m 99% certain that I’ve settled. No matter what you think you can do, or what your personal opinion about this is, you won’t be able to change my mind.

What I want to ask from all of you is simply for your support and understanding as I begin my social transition. If you don’t support this change, it’s quite simple to unfollow/unfriend/whatever.

This next paragraph will be different based on which platform it’s on. Since you’re on my website, I’ll give you that version. This site (https://devosmium.xyz) will transition to a redirect to https://devcara.com. The email listed in the sidebar will automatically forward to my new email and all responses will come from there. The content on this site (posts, etc) will be moved over to the new site. Thank you all for reading and understanding.


  1. If you have it, you have it. ↩︎


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